Defining Happiness As A Young Adult

When you’re a young adult it’s really easy to get caught up in other people’s definitions of happiness, when you see what other people are doing in their lives.

As a marketer, I’ve learnt so much about how businesses sell you insecurity, telling you that you NEED to have X and Y and Z to feel complete. That’s how they make money.

If you’re satisfied freelancing doing what you love instead of getting a higher salary in a Fortune 500 company, carry on.

If you want to be the first in your small hometown to get into an Ivy League university even though everyone discourages you, go chase your dreams.

If your life ambition is to get married early and have 8 kids you will love unconditionally, go for it lol.

If you’re delightfully living your best life single travelling the world with good friends, ignore the peer pressure to find love.

If you’re happy driving an Axia or using an Android or renting a house when everyone else is telling you that you’re missing out by not owning a BMW or an iPhone or buying a house, you do you.

You are being told every day that This and This and This is important… stand your ground and say, “No, THIS is what’s important”. Remind yourself constantly to define happiness by your own terms (as long as you’re a responsible and decent human being of course), not by other people’s definitions of it.

Creating Contentment

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I changed my Instagram bio to “content creator, creating contentment” and it’s probably my favourite one so far 🌸

The first part is of course because I am happiest when i am creating good and inspiring content. I love working with words and visuals, and enjoy it when people benefit from the content created.

But i also love the word ‘content’ because it means ‘rasa cukup’. It doesn’t mean extreme joy or excitement – it just means that you feel that things are enough. And god, it is such a blessing to feel content ♥️ It is SUCH a blessing to feel content.

A rich person might not feel content despite all their fancy things, a smart student in a school might not feel content despite all their top grades, a gorgeous person might not feel content despite all their beauty.

I wanted to write ‘chasing contentment’ at first but that sounds exhausting. I think that contentment / rasa cukup comes from within. you are the one who chooses to CREATE your own contentment, and it is a constant daily effort. because – crap happens in life. And there will be periods of time when you feel intense anger or misery. But i pray that in the end, He guides you to create your own contentment despite the difficult situations you are put in.

“Sungguh ajaib dalam urusan orang Mukmin. Sesungguhnya setiap urusannya baginya ada kebaikan dan perkara ini tidak berlaku melainkan kepada orang Mukmin. Sekiranya dia diberi dengan sesuatu yang menggembirakan lalu dia bersyukur maka kebaikan baginya dan sekiranya apabila dia ditimpa kesusahan lalu dia bersabar maka kebaikan baginya.” (Riwayat Muslim)